I received the following question:

Here is an article on pre-marital sex. What are your thoughts on it?


Well, first of all, I have written on this topic, and the articles are up on my website at:


Here are my answers to this article. Feel free to peruse the entire article at the huffingtonpost site listed above to see what I am answering.

First of all, she tries to make virginity proponents out to be ridiculous because they suggest that pre-marital sex can cause blindness. It is true that premarital sex cannot cause blindness, but Chlamydia certainly can.


Syphilis can also cause optic neuritis.


Chlamydia and Gonorrhea are the most important preventable causes of infertility, according to:


Thus to laugh at the idea that premarital sex can cause blindness and infertility is biased, inaccurate, and misleading. Yes, it can, if an STD is contracted. Is not contracting an STD one of the major reasons not to indulge in premarital sex from a non-Biblical standpoint?

She basically uses these two examples to try to make the whole list ridiculous. However, I find it likely that premarital sex can cause a struggle with self-esteem, depression, connecting with a future spouse, and maintaining discipline and restraint in other areas of their lives.

I could learn lessons from drug abuse, alcohol abuse, reckless behavior, prison time, etc., all of which I might not have learned otherwise. I am not really interested in learning these lessons.

3. For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality (porneia); 4. that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5. not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6. that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. 7. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness. 8. Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who has also given us His Holy Spirit. I Thessalonians 4:3-8.

Why is the brother taken advantage of and defrauded by porneia? I believe it is because his daughter’s virginity is taken away without him receiving the bridal price, etc., and without the man who takes it away pledging to care for his daughter, as he would if he married her. Otherwise, how is anyone defrauded?

“A popular book sold on Focus on the Family’s website” is a pretty vague reference, and makes it all but impossible to check up on her claims. I do not think there is any law against naming a book in your article, is there?

The reference may be to STDs, which are spread by premarital sex as well as prostitution, I believe? I cannot comment on the interpretation of “latter end” without knowing what she is referring to. She must expect us to take her word for it that there was an “exegetical sleight of hand,” or else buy every likely looking book on the Focus website? Or perhaps she is pulling a bit of sleight of hand herself?

In other words, the Christian must adjust himself to society, rather than to God’s Word. This sort of argument is all-too-common, but I have little time for it. I am not interested in being a Christian in tune with today’s society, but in being a believer in tune with the Scriptures.

It’s not a divine mandate as far as she can tell. She has not tried too hard, it seems. She can go on claiming to be a “student of Christianity” if she wants to. I will stick to being a student of God’s Word.